Family Inclusion- Including Children In A Wedding Ceremony

When children are involved in a wedding, after the bride and groom exchange vows and rings, I suggest integrating vows dedicated especially to the children, followed by the presentation of a gift.

Often marriage is thought of as the union of two people. In reality, marriage joins many lives which is most apparent when the Bride and/or Groom have children. The lives of your children change with yours on your wedding day and your marriage becomes the proclaiming of a new family. Without a loving commitment to those children, a wedding ceremony is incomplete. The presentation of a token of family unity such as a necklace or ring is just one if my many ways of honoring your children during the ceremony. Speaking to them on bent knee or at their level assuring your love gives them peace of mind as well.

Depending on their age, personality and ability level, there are several ways in which your child can be an active part in your wedding ceremony. In a family unity ceremony, the Bride and Groom make vows and take an oath to their children. This is usually done after the Bride and Grooms ring exchange. The Bride and Groom can present the child(ren) with a token of family unity, if they wish. After the parents make their vows to the child or children, a ring or necklace would be presented as a symbol of the new blended family. Remember, giving of a gift is not mandatory. Making vows to your children followed by your living embrace can be just as effective.